26 February, 2010

Houses Have Feelings Too

My son recently moved to a new house - not new in the sense of just being built but a house new to him and his fiance.

After they had moved all of their furniture and belongings inside and straightened things out a little I sat in their living room and immediately felt comfortable. I thought, "This is a good house filled with happiness."

I remember reading Tennyson when he wrote:

"Woods have tongues
As walls have ears."

That's sort of true. Houses and buildings somehow absorb attitudes and perhaps temperaments of the people who have lived there previously. If the last tenants were full of family love this permeates the atmosphere. The opposite is true as well. If there has been hate and ill feeling these vibrations linger and can be felt by the new owners.

Inside Rye ChurchAll buildings have a mood. I love visiting churches and places of worship wherever I travel in the world - even though I don't belong to any organised religion. Most churches give an instant feeling of peace and tranquility.

Other buildings give off different vibes. Obvious ones are places such as airports, where everything seems to be hustle, bustle and confusion. A doctors surgery may give off anxiety, restaurants a sense of expectations and so on.

Rye church tower stairsSome people say they see ghosts in their houses or in other buildings who repeat the same thing. These apparitions walk down the same stairs, in the same way or across a room in a certain direction over and over again. Some strong emotion has imprinted this into the house.

It's interesting (or maybe worrying!) to consider what the walls of our own houses are taking in as they observe our moods, tone of our voices, thoughts and so on.

Shelly said, "One wandering thought pollutes the day." As well as polluting our minds perhaps these thoughts also pollute our living areas.

Wonder how people feel when they walk into our homes?

Photos: Rye Church Mike Perry 2010

4 comments:

  1. This is so true.
    When I go in the house, building, I can sense what kind of feeling there is...are people happy or were they happy or at least satisfied, what is important for them etc.
    You can feel it!

    BLOGitse

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  2. Another great post. Walking into a stranger's home, you can always sense a lot about the person just based on the feeling of the house.

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  3. 4 years ago, my mother and my siblings had to leave the house that we all grew up in. It was a very old house and was very dear to all of us. We packed our old stuff and things for days and the house was a bit of a mess.

    That last night we were there, I, 2 of my brothers and my mom were sitting in the living room. It was after midnight, we were having coffee and were chatting, reminiscing the old days. It was very quiet and the other parts of the house were dark. Then we heard a scream, coming from one of the bedrooms upstairs. We swore it was my sister-in law who was screaming a very loud and heart wrenching scream. Like she was in pain or something.

    We all got up and ran upstairs to where my brother and his wife were staying for the night. Only to find them quietly talking in hushed voices. Talking about the old house.

    Another incident happened that last night in the old house. My mother was inside the bathroom and she could hear my 2 teenage sisters giggling and talking in very loud voices. Form inside the bathroom, my mom asked them to keep their voices down, as it was very late in the night. The 2 teenagers seemed to not have heard and kept talking and laughing in their shrill voices. This annoyed my mother a little and hurriedly stepped out of the bathroom to reprimand the girls. But as she steps out of the bathroom, the room was suddenly quiet, and there was no one there. Turns out, my sisters were inside their bedrooms - already asleep.

    We were actually discussing the house on the day that we left it. It's like, our family has left an imprint of everything that we have done, of everything that we were. But why on that last day? That night before we left? It feels like it's taunting... Or was it grieving? Like some sort of reminding us of everything that we had... Or everything that were in that house.

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    1. Hello anon - Thank you for your story. It does sound as if the house didn't want you to leave.

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