"Recently my niece, Barbara, died following a car accident.
Babs, as she was known, was running late for work and for some reason overtook another car along a country lane, where there was only two-way traffic. She was involved in a head on crash, the other driver survived.
Her grave is by the main lane running through our local cemetery and behind her memorial stone is a sign which says, 'No overtaking or passing.'
I know this doesn't sound the least bit funny under the circumstances, but even my sister (Babs' mother) smiled through her tears when she first saw the sign. Of all the vacant plots it had to be this one that was chosen for Babs.
My sister and my brother-in-law often think they see Babs, walking along the road, or in a girl's smile across a shop floor. It gives them comfort, though I think it is only their imagination, but it seems to help them come to terms with their loss."
I'm not sure, Alan, if you ever come to terms with the loss of a child but whose to say what your sister sees. Maybe she does see Babs. Our loved ones are with us always.