Saturday, November 26
The Dead In Dreams Are Very Real
In one of his novels, One for My Baby, Tony Parsons' writes, "Sometimes I think that the dead live in dreams. Heaven, the afterlife, the next world, whatever you want to call it - it's all in our Dreams."
I must say that to a degree I concur with this thought. On occasions I have seen people who have been very close to me in my dreams. Nothing on a regular basis but to me they appeared real enough for me to remember them years later.
The character in Tony Parsons' book, Alfie, says after dreaming of his wife, Rose, who was killed in an accident, "And I still don't know what to make of those dreams - were they just the product of loss and imagination and grief? Or was it really her? They didn't feel like something that I had made up. They felt far more real than most of the waking days of my life."
In a way that's how I felt too. Now though I realise that I have reached a conclusion - I can't say why or how - that the loved ones I saw in my dreams were in fact them - still alive, but in another dimension. Maybe they have access to our world for a short while after they have died and are able to leave us messages in our dreams or in other ways - with white feathers for example, as I have written about previously.
From my experience we are more likely to have contact with the dead in dreams just after they have died or when we are about to move on ourselves from this life.
Later in the book 'Alfie' mentions this as his Nan (grandmother) is dying: "My Nan has started to see the dead in her dreams. What is a little bit scary is that sometimes she is awake when she has these dreams. She doesn't need to sleep to see her remembered dead. They come to her anyway."
Tony Parsons isn't an author I would usually read but someone who was moving gave my wife a load of books, about thirty or forty, and I picked out one to read by 'chance' - as I felt like reading something easy and relaxing for a change.
It's strange how things work out, as the book unexpectedly helped me to realise that I had formulated an opinion about how the dead do really contact us in our dreams. I could well have picked out another book to read - the Universe does move in mysterious ways!